When someone says communication is the key to all heathy relationships please listen.  They are like a wise old owl.  They know their stuff.  I have some very very close girlfriends that I believe have healthy communication.  With that being said, we SUCK at really telling the truth and being clear in our communication.  Just when you think you know how to say what you really mean, its misunderstood or taken out of context or even better yet not communicated at all.  Over the past few days, I have had some pretty tough bouts with these girls.  There has been some hurt feelings, misunderstandings, anger, bad language, and if you can think of anything else that could go wrong please insert here happen in our conversations.  I wonder when Jesus said your tongue is like the rudder of a ship what He really meant by this statement in James.  My thoughts tend to come out too quickly are are not seasoned as they should be.  I am at fault for some poor communication.  But( I love buts inserted in blogs), I will say that the poor communication did produce good fruit.  These misunderstandings and hurts were dealt with in an appropriate manner spurring growth.  I love it.  What was meant for evil was used for good.  Growth seems to the common denominator in life these days.  What a great theme.  Without this growth I would become stale and not produce any fruit. Thank you Jesus for this safe place to learn.

So its me and Kimmy driving to Athens on friday night about 9 pm.  We are headed north on Ga Hwy 441 at approximately 65mph.  As you can see we are kinda bored and wanted to write a blog entry.  Kim has confessed her undying love for Christian Bale, as we have just finished watching 3:10 to Yuma. She actually prefers to see him in Little Women.  Im not really sure why, because he is pretty freakin’ smokin in this movie.  He is entirely hotter in Batman if you ask me.  

We have passed the point in our friendship when road trips require deep meaningful conversations.  One might think that this is a sign that the relationship has no depth.  However, we both agree that the fact that we can sit in silence for a long period of time, means that our friendship is very deep and unique.

Just so you know….I just screamed SHIT because Kimmy just ran a red light in a major intersection.  We could have been killed and this would have been the last thing anyone would have read by either one of us.  Pretty stinkin sad.

I think we are going to stop soon because I have to go…and I need some coffee.  By the way call Shirley in Milledgeville, she can help with all your financial needs. (A billboard we passed) 

I will keep you updated on the trip.  We arrived at Alexa’s house around 11:30.   Time to catch up and get some sleep before a big day of fun and friends.

I have always taken some pride in my relationships.  I have felt that I have become a good communicator with my friends and other significant relationships.  I guess that I came to expect the same out of others.  I recently became very frustrated when I realized it doesn’t matter how well you communicate, it takes two to have a fulfilling relationship. I have several friends that I simply can not communicate with.  There has been things said in secret about others and when confronted, there is no admitting it. I am one to forgive and forget after things are talked out and sorted through.  However, it becomes uber aggravating with the other party when there is no willingness to talk or even be real.  I would love to have openness and realness in all my relationships like I have experienced in several others.  It has come to my attention that I may never get that from these select relationships and I have come to accept it.  I have to forgive for me and not for them.  It does me no good to hold a small grudge when they have no idea how to communicate.  I’m not saying that I am perfect at communication and its still a learning process, but I will engage in real conversation.

When one realizes it takes real gut wrenching communication to have great relationships, it gets scary.  Nobody likes to let someone into those places that only you know and see.  I will say that the people that I have elected to let into those places have shown great loyalty and to be trustworthy. I have found a few “safe” people.  I pray that God helps me to be as real I can, revealing only what is needed to the right people at the right time.  I just want to be authentic.  I pray He also helps me to realize that I don’t have to be frustrated with those that don’t know how to communicate and He teaches me how to relate and be in relationship with them.